“Do you have to go out every weekend?”

July 22, 2008 9:33 PM

shooters at Bellini Room, St James Powerhouse, Singapore

I was talking to Blinkymummy on the weekend when she mentioned that she was concerned for me. She felt that I sounded depressed and different based on some of my recent posts and our conversations. I had told her not to worry and that it was nothing of the sort, but I did admit to being more tired and stressed since I’ve started the new job.

I’ve mentioned this previously and that is despite the occasional weekend shift work and increased tiredness now, I would still go out and have myself a manic weekend. Which had prompted both BM and my mother to ask me the same question,

Must you go out every weekend? Can’t you stay at home and rest?

To that I answered, it is because of the tiredness and the mental stress from work that I feel compelled to let loose on the weekend. Especially now with my new job where I’m handling a higher volume of queries and complaints. On any given week, I’m bound to deal with at least 3 or 4 difficult customers. It takes only one to stuff up my entire day. And on some days like today, I’d dealt with two such customers.

I try hard not to take it personally, or let it affect me. But it’s an effort. It’s an effort to try and relax and forget about it once I get home. Despite me going back to a comfortable home, to my family and my dog, and me being a happy person most of the time, it’s an effort nonetheless. And anything that takes effort is exhausting. It’s enough to give me a headache. How bloody ironic.

So yeah, I indulge and I imbibe on the weekends. Although I understand that my weekend escapades are taking its own toll on my body and mind, I only live once, and youth is fleeting. I’ll find more sedate forms of recreation later. Hopefully much later. :mrgreen:

downing a submarine at Zouk, KL

13 thoughts on ““Do you have to go out every weekend?”

  1. mooiness Post author

    bm: heheh some Hokkien words just sound terrible no matter the intention!

    Kitty: repression? you mean depression? that’s why I go out. 😉 But the part about the savings is true but I’m miserly during the week. Heh.

    nadnut: of course, it’s only once a week. Well sometimes twice. Hahah!

  2. LupinTan

    Hahaha, BM sounds like ur mom.

    Anyway, you have to gauge yourself, if you push ur body too hard because you are partying hard for the point of stress releasing, I doubt you feel better.

    I would rather hibernate. Hahaha.

  3. blur ting

    Different people find different ways to relax. For you, I guess it is a night out whereas for us, we prefer a quiet corner at home. Do what works for you man.

    When it comes to stress at work, try not to let it affect you once you leave the office. It’s like being a doctor. You see and treat your patients but you can’t bring all their worries and fears home with you. As long as you know you’ve done your best, that’s fine. You’ve got to take care of your own well being too.

  4. girlstar7

    Everyone deals with stress, it’s a normal part of life. Even the most laid-back, mild-mannered, happy people (like yourself in nature) can experience stress, anxiety and mild depression given the right circumstances. We’re only human, after all! There’s only so much we can handle, and a little bit of anxiety/stress can be normal and healthy.
    How we deal with this stress and how we unwind, varies from person to person. After a long, stressful week, some people just want to curl up in bed with a book. Others may want to get drunk and dance the night away. Some people may unwind by playing videos games, downloading porn, going out to dinner and many, many others! Like you, I love having a big night out as it helps me unwind, de-stress and feel good. When I’m on the dance floor after a few drinks, I”m never happier and all my problems seem very far away.
    The point is, everyone is different! If you love clubbing as it helps you unwind, keep going! Other people may prefer to de-stress by staying at home, but that’s them and this is you. Everyone is different.

  5. btx

    going out without a purpose or motive is shit !
    i try to do something else besides going to club/pub but only ending up getting fuckin bored n drunk at home with my homies…reaaal shitt !

  6. mooiness Post author

    Lupin: true that, cannot go too crazy. Hey, I like to drink and party but I don’t like hangovers.

    blur ting: yeah I know I have to leave the work at home but sometimes it just creeps into my head. That’s why it’s an effort to stay happy. 🙂

    girlstar7: yeah it may seem counter-intuitive to de-stress by doing an activity that is actually physically and mentally exhausing (the drinking and the dancing), but it works!

    btx: erm wow you sure have a lot of pent up frustration there.

  7. mf

    I guess it’s ur own way of dealing with stress at work. We all hv our own ways of managing things….
    Like how frens will scream at me when I tell them I hit the gym for combat classes at 4-5 times a week…sometimes even when I dun feel well..die die must go.. 😛

    and I get responses like :”u tink u ironman?”

    But I AM enjoying my kind of lifestyle!

    Just do it! 😀

  8. mooiness Post author

    mf: actually a good workout is a good stress reliever, and can even make you happy. And you can get all that anger out by punching something. Heh.

    BigZapfer: Hahah I think it a lot but most times I’d still have to just grit my teeth, and force myself to calm down.

    Oh and that link is funny! Heheh.


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