Just shut up and listen

November 4, 2008 8:37 PM

When a woman is telling you her problems, she doesn’t necessarily want to hear your solutions to them. Most of the time, she already knows what she has to do; she just needs to vent. Furthermore, women think differently from men.

At times, a woman’s thoughts are governed more by emotions and may seem illogical to us. And some would say that they are better lateral thinkers. In any case, a woman does not need to hear your attempt at a logical solution because you are not viewing the problem like she is. She just needs you to listen.

And why is this a good idea? Because looking bored, or getting caught pretending to be interested is better than arguing back and forth about a problem that wasn’t yours to begin with. 😛

24 thoughts on “Just shut up and listen

  1. BigZ

    This also applies to men, not all men are prone to logical thinking.

    For example here is an unrelated, yet nevertheless interesting website I think you would in enjoy 🙂


    P.S also that’s why women have breasts, something for men to stare at whilst listening (man I am I going to get it for that one 🙂 )

  2. sourrain

    I think what you need to do is just think about totally irrelevant things like what you’re having for dinner – that way your brains are still working and you look remotely interested 🙂

    I must say, there’s nothing worse than a man coming in and trying to solve the problem with their practical thinking. Damn annoying..:P

  3. Kitty

    pretending to listen is always good… your “orhs” are relatively well placed. The *nods* and “uh huhs” are always good practice too.
    and i’m qualified to say that on all counts. *giggle*

  4. mooiness Post author

    BigZ: breasts and cleavage are only for glancing at. You’re asking for more trouble if you stare. Heh.

    Sarah: heheh thank you thank you! Comes from years of experience and women magazines!

    Lupin: word!

    sourrain: hey that’s a good technique. thanks for the tip!

    Kitty: woohoo! thanks for the endorsement and approval! Hahah!

  5. girlstar7

    Wow, you really do understand women well!! Well said, I hope more men out there are reading this!
    I find that in some situations I really do need advice and it is welcomed. But in these cases, I usually specifically ASK i.e. I need some advice, I don’t know what to do. However, in other situations I really do just need to VENT! In which case it is SOooooo annoying if someone tries to give you logical advice!

  6. Katie

    Very true. In fact, the other night I got very emotional over the stupidist thing simply because I’ve been working really hard lately and I’m very tired. Phill was perfect – he listened, he hugged me and made me laugh. Just what I needed, rather than the usual argument over how silly I was being!

  7. mooiness Post author

    girlstar7: heheh but yeah, sometimes you’d like us to take you literally and other times you want us to read between the lines.

    Lupin: it’s not just that we never learn, but women are always changing too.

    Katie: listening and just being there takes less energy. 😉

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