So Tham and I had our usual discussion about sexual politics the other night and he brought up some interesting observations. Some women like to be the mother figure in the relationship, they like nurturing and looking after the man and feeling needed, while others crave the intrigue and mystery that comes with dating an unpredictable, some say unreliable, man. In other words, they like bad and broken men whom they can nurture and fix. Or so they think.
I’ve talked about those things previously so I’m not gonna rehash them here. Tham adds something to the discussion though: stable, independent and reliable guys are boring to the women described above, and thus they are unattractive in their eyes. There’s no challenge, no excitement, and “what you see is what you get” is very dull to them.
Whether or not the theory holds is not important but it sure does make me feel better about myself. There’s nothing wrong with being a well-adjusted independent guy, right? Right? Damn it, where you going? Don’t leave! Hey come back! Please? Hello?