A while ago, I’d wrote about the familiar scenario of a guy and a girl out on a date and they bump into one of those flower hawkers. What does he do? Does he buy the over-priced flower which she doesn’t even want anyway, or does he risk making her think that he’s too cheap to spend $20 on her? Oh the dilemma.
Similarly, when you like a girl it’s very hard to say no to her when she asks for a favour. And even if she didn’t ask for the favour, you are compelled to offer anyway because you want to present yourself in the best possible light. No matter how difficult or inconvenient it may be, you consider it a worthy investment full of exciting returns.
And if you don’t offer yourself, some other guy might step up and steal her. There’s no way you’d let that happen right? So what if she asks you to go to the airport with her at 6 in the morning to go pick up her mother? There’s no argument in your head – the choice is obvious. You just do it. It’s a small price to pay.
And girls, this is the reason why the nice guy is being so nice to you. It’s not because he’s just a nice guy who likes to help people. It’s because he likes you! But guys? Don’t be too nice – don’t be a door mat. And remember, just being nice isn’t enough. Everything else must fit together. Metaphoricially speaking.