The saying goes that if you don’t expect anything, you will never be disappointed. That’s a very pessimistic view of life but paradoxically it can also be the one that gives you the most joy. Take your friends. Everyone has a core group of friends that they can count on one hand, or two hands if they are lucky. These are the ones that you usually expect the most of, the ones that you know you can count on to lift you up whenever you needed it.
Then there are friends who are great for having fun and partying with but you don’t really expect much out of them. Although they are fair weather friends they can still serve a purpose in your life. They occupy the more frivilous parts of your life. They are like fast food – not the best nutritionally but satisfying in the short term so long as you know that that’s what they are.
Don’t expect them to lend you money, go out of their way to do favours for you, or are truly genuine when they are around you, and you will never be disappointed. To expect more is pointless.
The trick is to know which type of friends are which but like everything else in life, it gets easier with experience. And if you are really lucky, your genuine friends are also the ones you have the most fun with. 🙂